Chores are a great idea. Also, the teaching of respect for others. My husband is originally from Texas and was taught to be respectful. To this day he still addresses people as Sir or Ma'am. People respond well to being treated respectfully. It did make for interesting moments,though, when we were living in England where he still said "Yes, Ma'am" and "Yes, Sir" to people - there, these words are used to address the royal family. The ladies in the grocery checkout area were absolutely chuffed (delighted) when he said "Yes, Ma'am" to them!
My parents were of the age that I always had to call any adult by their last name. It took me years to get used to calling them by their first name when I became an adult!
I know I can be very sensitive, but those videos literally had me weeping. I simply do not recognize this world I now find myself in. As an elder, I no longer feel safe hiking or traveling alone, nor do I go out at night, and make sure my doors are locked even during the day. I never lived my life this way, and it saddens me. I don’t know what I would do if I encountered this horrific behavior, since my inclination is always to step in and help, but certainly not in such violent situations. I have heard it said that these most recent shots are causing personality changes. And these young people have had what 78 by the time they are 18? Correlation? Thank you, Reinette, as always for broaching these difficult subjects. This one will stay with me for some time.
I know.... I don't recognize it either. I have friends who left California, live on the East Coast now, and say people OF ALL COLORS are kind and respectful to each other. They say they don't feel this way on the West Coast in particular.... and they also said they don't feel the racial tensions on the East Coast as much either. Very sad all around. I feel, however, a big reckoning on its way.
I presume your friends must not have moved anywhere close to a large city. All of my siblings live in NE PA and are terribly closed -minded as evidenced by the plandemic and recent elections. I sometimes contemplate packing my car and leaving everything behind, but have no idea where I would head (any suggestions?). An adventure surely, but at 70 also feels a bit like a nightmare which I never anticipated at this stage of my life. I think it is safe to say that this coming year will be very interesting, and certainly anything but boring. I plan to stay engaged, open and simply hold on for the ride of our lives!
I am in the bay area and have young adult women still at home. 1 adult stepson long gone and None of them have ever behaved this way out in public nor would I allow it. My daughters are very troubled by what is happening. One stays off social media because of everything. Being from Europe I am even more troubled as I was brought up similar to Reinette with having to be respectful of adults and others in general. I honestly feel that vaccines have damaged a lot of these kids a lot more than we actually know. Pain pills are especially available to young kids too. In my native country you have to go through a dr for that. Drugs are easily available in ways I can't even understand. Pot is available in ways that is unheard of in parts of the world. I was at my " Christmas " parade with my 1 daughter last night. Ours has taken a strange turn and hardly represent Christmas. Not just that people are smoking pot everywhere. I said to my daughter several times loudly, all these little kids running around most be high from the adults being irresponsible smoking pot. It smelled so awful. I am not into drugs of any kind. I don't care what people do in private, but this was a very public thing, with lots of people and I thought supposed to be for kids. California seems lost, I have wanted to move for years. One day my family will, but just hope my kids will too and that I am not so sure of.
Yes, California does appear to be lost for so many reasons. I live in rural West Marin and stopped hiking alone after a gentleman and his dog were shot on a hiking trail by three young people who were high out of their minds who wanted his car. I can understand why you would be reluctant to move with family here. I have nothing holding me here except fifty years of beautiful memories but I can take them wherever I go. I have even lost my sweet kitty very recently which, while terribly sad, has given me even more of a sense of freedom to be able to pick up and hopefully find a new community of like-minded people. I am so glad you have family, but that also must be so difficult worrying about their future. I simply cannot imagine what this world will be like in a years time, not to mention a decade from now with all the nonsense being thrown at us. I suppose in that regard it is a blessing to be my age and without children. But I do believe we signed up for this very moment before coming to this gorgeous planet. 🌎 Take care and thank you for your posts, your insights are much appreciated.
Thank you Reinette! It is interesting that you bring this up now. A friend & I were talking about the abundant disrespect in our society just recently. I have been watching Asian TV series for several months now & in every one of them it is clear that respect is still very important in their cultures, especially for their elders! Although, some cultures here are respectful within their own culture to elders, they are not towards elders outside of their culture. For example, a few years ago my biz partner & I were in a gathering where a Native was speaking to the group about their culture honoring their elders. Then the Native started berating my partner & me for disrspecting their culture, although our organization had paid members of the community to share their knowledge at events we produced. No one spoke up to let the Native know that we had not disrespected their community. We were obviously elders & probably older that most of the group.
Outside of the U.S. children are taught at an early age to be respectful to everyone. When I'm in Guatemala, everyone is polite, respectful & smile at everyone. It would appear that common courtesies & respect are not being taught here now.
You are correct.... respect for others is not taught at all and we are suffering the consequences. I see this locally as well. Most of the younger generation have their face on their phones and are irritated by an older person's presence. I witnessed this just last night out in town. Heartbreaking because they don't actually realize how much fuller their lives would be if they connected to their elders.
I'm Gen X and everyone older than me remembers having the whole neighborhood policing behavior of children. Slowly that changed so when my daughter was young if I tried to stop children from fighting in the park, they just said "you're not my mother" and completely ignored me.
PermieGeek, I have seen this as well... I remember years ago I read it takes about 8 adults to raise one child... this wasn't difficult to do decades ago because it included grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. But now we are down to one parent..... the family unit has reached an unnatural level.
Fighting for and maintaining CIVIL SOCIETY is among the best ways of resisting/stopping THEM!
Divide and rule! Agents provocateurs anyone, FALSE FLAGS, propaganda social engineering psyops? Keeping us proles at each others' throats while the globalist technocrat predators laugh all the way to the BIS and The Bank of Rothschild's!
Life everywhere is being assaulted by THE TECHNOCRATIC OMNIWAR! RESIST! DO NOT CONSENT TO ALL THINGS DIGITAL, 'SMART', AI, 5G, NO CASH - ALL OF IT! dhughes.substack.com Technocrat ruling class psychos get a sadistic thrill from their powers over life and death and hurting all who stand in their way and they need the resources worldwide to build their digital total slavery control grids (herd survivors into 15 minute city digital prisons)!
AI is designed to be anti-human/anti-life programmed by technocrat control freak psychos - garbage in = garbage out. Everyone got along just fine without all these absurd and downright satanic electronic gadgets that did not exist until recently. NOBODY NEEDS THIS AI CRAP!
Heh, heh... Definition AI: Anal Intercourse for robots...
The digital concept is also rather absurd, considering the Universe has had trillions of years of head start and is indeed an infinite continuum... Ah well. Details, details...
Reinette, totally agree. As I’ve spent much of my life trying to heal my own life, and finally feel some progress at my ripe old age of 72, I’m thinking it might be able to happen a bit more quickly than might be expected if we can hold that internal sweet spot. This weekend there has been a Schiller Institute conference which totally brings me hope. If you don’t know of them, take a peek. It seems to me we all have to find our own way, with a little help from our friends. Thanks for all you do Reinette!
The last two violent videos reminded me of one day several months back when I was home watching videos online. Abruptly, in the middle of a video, I found myself watching a different video. I have no idea where this video clip came from (I attempted to figure it out through my browser history but could not). There were 3 short, violent scenes in this video clip which was completely unrelated to what I had been watching. It likely did not last for more than a minute yet I was in tears, after watching a young man murder another young man and drag his body out of the house and leave him to die on the ground. All three of the scenes in this video clip had something in common (besides the violence). All were depictions of people of color attacking people who were white and all three scenes were of youth. All this to say that I think the internet has been used to propagandize us and to create race wars, as well as transform the youth in our culture to believe that such behavior is normal. I'm confident this violent behavior does not come from parents or teachers but from the powers that be and the way they are utilizing the internet to deconstruct our society (and increase suicide rates among youth also). The graphic you shared above, Reinette, shows the destruction of the family from 23% to 5% over the years. I believe both the increase in violence and the destruction of the family have been goals of the Banksters and I think spending less time online (especially for impressionable youth) may be the swiftest and most effective way to undo these changes and reclaim our culture and civility.
It's definitely a combination of factors and I have no doubt the race wars have been created to do what it is doing. Social media is definitely destroying the minds and hearts of children, BUT where we have control over that is in the parenting and the education system.... which doesn't seem to invested in our children's future. Schools should outright ban phones in schools. Parents should highly limit the which I know is very, very difficult to do because kids are literally addicted to them -- setting themselves up for a lifetiime of addiction. This is a total marxist communistic agenda that has been underway since the 60s; the destruction of family and the social order.
I just read an article of Celia Farber's, she was posting about how a man put out a video about how lonely he was. Society has become a sad place for many people, simply heartbreaking. Those who still have social skills, can't find a friend. The internet has ruined us.
I agree.... while the internet has benefits such as DIY videos, online education, etc., the cost has been horrific. Like driving, it should come with a freaking "driver's license," and only be available to adults who know how to handle the vehicle. Fat chance of that ever happening.
And the loneliness factor... it's heartbreaking. I know very lonely people, and I encourage them to go out and find ways to engage others but they find many people very "cliquish" and unwilling to open themselves to new friends. It's worse now than before Covid, sadly.
Two of these scenes may be autistic young people having meltdowns. There are way more autistic kids and adults now. We can thank pHARMa's quackcines for that, along with ADD, ADHD, and a host of other symptoms of neurological and other injuries.
More than likely you are correct... and this is going to become a growing issue over the years because of the tidal wave of autistic children moving into adulthood. I have a dear friend who teaches autistic children and all I can say is we have no idea the nightmare this has become. Especially after the parents die. Where are all the grown autistic individuals going to go? Their parents won't be there to support them. They are becoming the majority of the population. It's frightful. I have this conversation often with my friends who are working with these children right now. There are no easy or cheap solutions.
I think there are other factors as well. Additives in food, frankenfood, frequencies being sent out continuously, EMF, 5G. Let's examine the rise of this behavior with the rise of these harmful foods/frequencies.
I am 81 years old. So what do I remember. In 1948 my family moved to what was originally a community of summer cottages (which had been winterized) on Lake Erie outside of Cleveland. There were 14 acres shared by 10 families. We never were supervised by adults, but they were ever present. We never went home for lunch; we went from mother to mother for our afternoon sandwiches.
Re school: I either walked to school or rode my bicycle; if I needed to take a bus, it wss public transportation.
A child could get paddled by the principal if he/she misbehaved. None of us children ever wanted to have the school call our parents because of bad behavior. In middle school I had to stand when the teacher came into the room. Punishment for misbehavior (chewing gum or whispering to each other during class) resulted in extra homework or having to attend an extra study hall after school. All adults including teachers were addressed as Mr., Mrs., or Miss.
Re parental rules: My father had rules; he explained to us why he had these rules and what would be the consequences if we disobeyed. The “problem” for me was that his rules generally made sense, so I never felt resentful or rebellious.
Re chores: I always had to make my before I came down in the morning. I had to help with the dishes and the laundry; I was responsible for feeding and cleaning up after my pets.
Re Misbehavior: When I was five, I picked all the daffodils from a neighbor’s garden to give to my mother for her birthday. The next day my mother took me over to the neighbor’s house. I had to apologize to her for taking all her flowers without asking her permission.
Re etiquette: I didn’t take private lessons which were offered back then; but my mother was my primary teacher. I remember that whenever we had guests over, I had to introduce myself before I could goe on my way. My grandmother (born in 1884) was the real stickler for good manners. She must have been unhappy with how I was using my soup spoon. Just in case it’s of any interest to anyone on how to use a soupspoon, just remember the phrase “over to Europe and back again”.
Amen Reinette!!! Bring back the civil society 🙏🏻💜
Chores are a great idea. Also, the teaching of respect for others. My husband is originally from Texas and was taught to be respectful. To this day he still addresses people as Sir or Ma'am. People respond well to being treated respectfully. It did make for interesting moments,though, when we were living in England where he still said "Yes, Ma'am" and "Yes, Sir" to people - there, these words are used to address the royal family. The ladies in the grocery checkout area were absolutely chuffed (delighted) when he said "Yes, Ma'am" to them!
My parents were of the age that I always had to call any adult by their last name. It took me years to get used to calling them by their first name when I became an adult!
I know I can be very sensitive, but those videos literally had me weeping. I simply do not recognize this world I now find myself in. As an elder, I no longer feel safe hiking or traveling alone, nor do I go out at night, and make sure my doors are locked even during the day. I never lived my life this way, and it saddens me. I don’t know what I would do if I encountered this horrific behavior, since my inclination is always to step in and help, but certainly not in such violent situations. I have heard it said that these most recent shots are causing personality changes. And these young people have had what 78 by the time they are 18? Correlation? Thank you, Reinette, as always for broaching these difficult subjects. This one will stay with me for some time.
I know.... I don't recognize it either. I have friends who left California, live on the East Coast now, and say people OF ALL COLORS are kind and respectful to each other. They say they don't feel this way on the West Coast in particular.... and they also said they don't feel the racial tensions on the East Coast as much either. Very sad all around. I feel, however, a big reckoning on its way.
I presume your friends must not have moved anywhere close to a large city. All of my siblings live in NE PA and are terribly closed -minded as evidenced by the plandemic and recent elections. I sometimes contemplate packing my car and leaving everything behind, but have no idea where I would head (any suggestions?). An adventure surely, but at 70 also feels a bit like a nightmare which I never anticipated at this stage of my life. I think it is safe to say that this coming year will be very interesting, and certainly anything but boring. I plan to stay engaged, open and simply hold on for the ride of our lives!
I am in the bay area and have young adult women still at home. 1 adult stepson long gone and None of them have ever behaved this way out in public nor would I allow it. My daughters are very troubled by what is happening. One stays off social media because of everything. Being from Europe I am even more troubled as I was brought up similar to Reinette with having to be respectful of adults and others in general. I honestly feel that vaccines have damaged a lot of these kids a lot more than we actually know. Pain pills are especially available to young kids too. In my native country you have to go through a dr for that. Drugs are easily available in ways I can't even understand. Pot is available in ways that is unheard of in parts of the world. I was at my " Christmas " parade with my 1 daughter last night. Ours has taken a strange turn and hardly represent Christmas. Not just that people are smoking pot everywhere. I said to my daughter several times loudly, all these little kids running around most be high from the adults being irresponsible smoking pot. It smelled so awful. I am not into drugs of any kind. I don't care what people do in private, but this was a very public thing, with lots of people and I thought supposed to be for kids. California seems lost, I have wanted to move for years. One day my family will, but just hope my kids will too and that I am not so sure of.
Yes, California does appear to be lost for so many reasons. I live in rural West Marin and stopped hiking alone after a gentleman and his dog were shot on a hiking trail by three young people who were high out of their minds who wanted his car. I can understand why you would be reluctant to move with family here. I have nothing holding me here except fifty years of beautiful memories but I can take them wherever I go. I have even lost my sweet kitty very recently which, while terribly sad, has given me even more of a sense of freedom to be able to pick up and hopefully find a new community of like-minded people. I am so glad you have family, but that also must be so difficult worrying about their future. I simply cannot imagine what this world will be like in a years time, not to mention a decade from now with all the nonsense being thrown at us. I suppose in that regard it is a blessing to be my age and without children. But I do believe we signed up for this very moment before coming to this gorgeous planet. 🌎 Take care and thank you for your posts, your insights are much appreciated.
"I simply do not recognize this world I now find myself in."
I resemble that remark... I don't travel anymore - at all. We've aquired a nice shiny prison filled with industrial trash... It wasn't cheap either...
Well said, and sad.
Welll said, I feel the same.
Thank you Reinette! It is interesting that you bring this up now. A friend & I were talking about the abundant disrespect in our society just recently. I have been watching Asian TV series for several months now & in every one of them it is clear that respect is still very important in their cultures, especially for their elders! Although, some cultures here are respectful within their own culture to elders, they are not towards elders outside of their culture. For example, a few years ago my biz partner & I were in a gathering where a Native was speaking to the group about their culture honoring their elders. Then the Native started berating my partner & me for disrspecting their culture, although our organization had paid members of the community to share their knowledge at events we produced. No one spoke up to let the Native know that we had not disrespected their community. We were obviously elders & probably older that most of the group.
Outside of the U.S. children are taught at an early age to be respectful to everyone. When I'm in Guatemala, everyone is polite, respectful & smile at everyone. It would appear that common courtesies & respect are not being taught here now.
You are correct.... respect for others is not taught at all and we are suffering the consequences. I see this locally as well. Most of the younger generation have their face on their phones and are irritated by an older person's presence. I witnessed this just last night out in town. Heartbreaking because they don't actually realize how much fuller their lives would be if they connected to their elders.
Thanks for this poignant post.
Are we seeing the symptoms of an exteme hyper-consumer culture?
The consecration of materialistic values desecrates the sanctity of LIFE.
Hyperconsumer, narcissistic, selfish, short-sighted, entitled.... did I get everything?
Yes, well said…..this is what advertising & marketing produces…..
I'm Gen X and everyone older than me remembers having the whole neighborhood policing behavior of children. Slowly that changed so when my daughter was young if I tried to stop children from fighting in the park, they just said "you're not my mother" and completely ignored me.
PermieGeek, I have seen this as well... I remember years ago I read it takes about 8 adults to raise one child... this wasn't difficult to do decades ago because it included grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. But now we are down to one parent..... the family unit has reached an unnatural level.
Fighting for and maintaining CIVIL SOCIETY is among the best ways of resisting/stopping THEM!
Divide and rule! Agents provocateurs anyone, FALSE FLAGS, propaganda social engineering psyops? Keeping us proles at each others' throats while the globalist technocrat predators laugh all the way to the BIS and The Bank of Rothschild's!
Life everywhere is being assaulted by THE TECHNOCRATIC OMNIWAR! RESIST! DO NOT CONSENT TO ALL THINGS DIGITAL, 'SMART', AI, 5G, NO CASH - ALL OF IT! dhughes.substack.com Technocrat ruling class psychos get a sadistic thrill from their powers over life and death and hurting all who stand in their way and they need the resources worldwide to build their digital total slavery control grids (herd survivors into 15 minute city digital prisons)!
AI is designed to be anti-human/anti-life programmed by technocrat control freak psychos - garbage in = garbage out. Everyone got along just fine without all these absurd and downright satanic electronic gadgets that did not exist until recently. NOBODY NEEDS THIS AI CRAP!
Bless and thank you for doing what you do!
Yes, we are definitely fighting against an anti-human agenda, Amy.
Heh, heh... Definition AI: Anal Intercourse for robots...
The digital concept is also rather absurd, considering the Universe has had trillions of years of head start and is indeed an infinite continuum... Ah well. Details, details...
Excellent, Reinette. Love the story about driver's ed!
Yeeees, it's a hoot. Though it ticked me off throughout high school! But makes for a great story today!
That one had me hee-hawing!
Excellent commentary, Reinette! From one wild child to another and tho a bumpy road, respect paved the way.
This ship will be turned around!
Watching this was heartbreaking and terrifying. My children had to wash the walls when they broke the rules.
Reinette, totally agree. As I’ve spent much of my life trying to heal my own life, and finally feel some progress at my ripe old age of 72, I’m thinking it might be able to happen a bit more quickly than might be expected if we can hold that internal sweet spot. This weekend there has been a Schiller Institute conference which totally brings me hope. If you don’t know of them, take a peek. It seems to me we all have to find our own way, with a little help from our friends. Thanks for all you do Reinette!
The last two violent videos reminded me of one day several months back when I was home watching videos online. Abruptly, in the middle of a video, I found myself watching a different video. I have no idea where this video clip came from (I attempted to figure it out through my browser history but could not). There were 3 short, violent scenes in this video clip which was completely unrelated to what I had been watching. It likely did not last for more than a minute yet I was in tears, after watching a young man murder another young man and drag his body out of the house and leave him to die on the ground. All three of the scenes in this video clip had something in common (besides the violence). All were depictions of people of color attacking people who were white and all three scenes were of youth. All this to say that I think the internet has been used to propagandize us and to create race wars, as well as transform the youth in our culture to believe that such behavior is normal. I'm confident this violent behavior does not come from parents or teachers but from the powers that be and the way they are utilizing the internet to deconstruct our society (and increase suicide rates among youth also). The graphic you shared above, Reinette, shows the destruction of the family from 23% to 5% over the years. I believe both the increase in violence and the destruction of the family have been goals of the Banksters and I think spending less time online (especially for impressionable youth) may be the swiftest and most effective way to undo these changes and reclaim our culture and civility.
It's definitely a combination of factors and I have no doubt the race wars have been created to do what it is doing. Social media is definitely destroying the minds and hearts of children, BUT where we have control over that is in the parenting and the education system.... which doesn't seem to invested in our children's future. Schools should outright ban phones in schools. Parents should highly limit the which I know is very, very difficult to do because kids are literally addicted to them -- setting themselves up for a lifetiime of addiction. This is a total marxist communistic agenda that has been underway since the 60s; the destruction of family and the social order.
I just read an article of Celia Farber's, she was posting about how a man put out a video about how lonely he was. Society has become a sad place for many people, simply heartbreaking. Those who still have social skills, can't find a friend. The internet has ruined us.
I agree.... while the internet has benefits such as DIY videos, online education, etc., the cost has been horrific. Like driving, it should come with a freaking "driver's license," and only be available to adults who know how to handle the vehicle. Fat chance of that ever happening.
And the loneliness factor... it's heartbreaking. I know very lonely people, and I encourage them to go out and find ways to engage others but they find many people very "cliquish" and unwilling to open themselves to new friends. It's worse now than before Covid, sadly.
People have really changed since covid.
True. The internet has created a gaping black hole...
Two of these scenes may be autistic young people having meltdowns. There are way more autistic kids and adults now. We can thank pHARMa's quackcines for that, along with ADD, ADHD, and a host of other symptoms of neurological and other injuries.
More than likely you are correct... and this is going to become a growing issue over the years because of the tidal wave of autistic children moving into adulthood. I have a dear friend who teaches autistic children and all I can say is we have no idea the nightmare this has become. Especially after the parents die. Where are all the grown autistic individuals going to go? Their parents won't be there to support them. They are becoming the majority of the population. It's frightful. I have this conversation often with my friends who are working with these children right now. There are no easy or cheap solutions.
I think there are other factors as well. Additives in food, frankenfood, frequencies being sent out continuously, EMF, 5G. Let's examine the rise of this behavior with the rise of these harmful foods/frequencies.
I agree!
I am 81 years old. So what do I remember. In 1948 my family moved to what was originally a community of summer cottages (which had been winterized) on Lake Erie outside of Cleveland. There were 14 acres shared by 10 families. We never were supervised by adults, but they were ever present. We never went home for lunch; we went from mother to mother for our afternoon sandwiches.
Re school: I either walked to school or rode my bicycle; if I needed to take a bus, it wss public transportation.
A child could get paddled by the principal if he/she misbehaved. None of us children ever wanted to have the school call our parents because of bad behavior. In middle school I had to stand when the teacher came into the room. Punishment for misbehavior (chewing gum or whispering to each other during class) resulted in extra homework or having to attend an extra study hall after school. All adults including teachers were addressed as Mr., Mrs., or Miss.
Re parental rules: My father had rules; he explained to us why he had these rules and what would be the consequences if we disobeyed. The “problem” for me was that his rules generally made sense, so I never felt resentful or rebellious.
Re chores: I always had to make my before I came down in the morning. I had to help with the dishes and the laundry; I was responsible for feeding and cleaning up after my pets.
Re Misbehavior: When I was five, I picked all the daffodils from a neighbor’s garden to give to my mother for her birthday. The next day my mother took me over to the neighbor’s house. I had to apologize to her for taking all her flowers without asking her permission.
Re etiquette: I didn’t take private lessons which were offered back then; but my mother was my primary teacher. I remember that whenever we had guests over, I had to introduce myself before I could goe on my way. My grandmother (born in 1884) was the real stickler for good manners. She must have been unhappy with how I was using my soup spoon. Just in case it’s of any interest to anyone on how to use a soupspoon, just remember the phrase “over to Europe and back again”.